During the days that I stayed with my parents this week, my main activity was taking care of my father while my mom had an in-patient cancer treatment in Baltimore. Each day, my father and I headed out for walks. When the heat of a Washington summer reaches its peak, my dad and mom will walk the long corridors of their apartment building. This week, though, has been cooler, mostly in the eighties, so we’ve been able to venture outside. It has taught me some lessons.
Today we decided to go on more of a nature walk. About 500 yards from the building’s front lobby, we turn off the sidewalk onto a paved trail through the woods. We walk at a pace that’s only slightly faster than the Tim Conway “oldest man” character from the old days. It’s a stark contrast to the walks I take with my wife and our dogs. In those, we’re trying for exercise. This is different. My father’s walk is not vigorous. It barely raises the heart rate. In some ways, it’s more of an exercise in patience, but it does give us a chance to be together, enjoying the space around us. We can point to all of the trees that neither of us can identify. “What species is this one?” I ask.
“I’m not sure. I used to know,” my dad replies. Nonetheless, we speculate, marvel at the heights of the trees in the midst of this heavily populated area, and slowly move on. Street noise is replaced by the buzzing of cicadas, and the air cools noticeably. We pass dog walkers and women with strollers. To be clear, we don’t pass anybody unless they’re going the opposite direction. A creek flows through the woods, and we can spy houses through the branches. It’s not an extensive trail, but it gives my father a chance to wander without the danger of cars and without getting too winded. Looking down at the path, I spot a twig with a few leaves and an unusual fruit and suddenly realize I recognize it. It’s a tree that we used to have in our backyard when I was a kid. My dad looks at it and sighs, “Tulip.”
“Right,” I agree. I had forgotten all about tulip trees. “We don’t have those in Connecticut, We just have the tulip flowers.”
“Too bad,” he says. “You’ll have to keep visiting us to see them.” He smiles.
When we emerge from the woods, we head up a sidewalk that leads to the little community center. There’s a fountain and a small plaza. My father informs me that there’s a farmer’s market in this plaza every Saturday. As I turn back toward the fountain, I notice a very realistic sculpture of a woman sitting on the ground sketching the community center. I’ve passed this little plaza many times, but I’ve never noticed the woman before. I stop to take a picture and check out her sketch. Suddenly it reminds me of a photo of one of my students.
Each fall, I take my fifth grade class on a trip to Storm King Art Center, a spectacular outdoor art gallery on 500 acres of rolling hills, fields, and woods, Yes, it also has amazing sculptures. Before our trip, I try to prepare my class by letting them take a gallery walk in our classroom, stopping to sketch when something catches their eye. I implore them to slow down, not trying to see it all, but trying to know a few things well.
This walk with my father gives me a chance to heed my own advice.